How to Be On Your Own Side

• Learning to be on your own side is transformative for professional and personal success

• Many of us, especially from marginalized communities, are conditioned to prioritize others' needs ahead of their own

• Self-advocacy isn't selfish—it's necessary to achieve your potential

• Changing your relationship with yourself enables you to create powerful change for others

Mirror Mantra

Dear friends,

Since International Women's Day, I've been reflecting on a profound truth that took me far too long to discover: being on my own side isn't optional; it's essential.

For years, I operated from fear. Like many women, people of color, and immigrants, I believed success meant fitting in, working twice as hard for half the recognition, and people-pleasing to exhaustion.

When I finally experienced true belonging by surrounding myself with mirrors, everything changed. Learning to be on my own side has through not just professional success but profound personal joy and fulfillment. It's opened doors I never knew existed and created a level of confidence that empowers me daily.

When you truly believe in yourself, you create space for genuine connections, deeper impact, and a life filled with purpose. Read more about the power of being on your own side here.

What beautiful possibilities might unfold when you become your own best advocate?

Be Your Own Advocate

Try this transformative exercise: Make a list of all the ways you're hard on yourself professionally. What's your inner critic constantly saying? What expectations do you hold for yourself that you'd never impose on others?

Now, challenge yourself to respond to each critical thought with compassion. What would you say to a dear friend or mentee facing the same struggles? Extend that same kindness to yourself.

Remember that advocating for yourself isn't selfish—it's strategic. Research consistently shows that women who actively lobby for leadership roles, negotiate for higher compensation, and speak up about their accomplishments advance more quickly in their careers.

Start small: This week, share one professional achievement with your team or supervisor that you're proud of. Practice saying "thank you" when someone compliments your work, rather than deflecting or diminishing your contribution.

Keep shining, 

Sheila