The Art of Seeing Others: A Holiday Gift Guide

• This week's newsletter is a gift guide—but not just any gift guide

• We're pairing The Mirror Effect with thoughtful items that help people slow down and reconnect with themselves

• The focus: gifts that show someone you truly see them

Mirror Mantra

Are you overwhelmed yet? 

The holidays can feel like a tornado of obligation disguised as celebration. Between the parties, travel, and endless to-do lists, we can lose sight of what gift-giving is really about: showing those who mean the most to you that that you truly see them.

Not the polished, public version of them. The real them. The young woman navigating her first big career moves. The rockstar who needs permission to rest.The partner who quietly holds everything together (for more on gifts that make us feel seen, check out my recent article on a simple present that’s transformed my home).

This year, I wanted to create a guide that helps you give gifts that say: I see you. I know you. And I want you to take care of yourself.

Each gift pairs with The Mirror Effect  book or workbook to create moments of comfort and self-awareness (can’t we all use more of that?). Whether it's a candle that turns an ordinary evening into a ritual, cozy socks that remind someone to slow down, or a beautiful mug that makes morning coffee feel intentional—these are gifts that honor both the giver and receiver.

Wishing you comfort and joy this holiday season

Keep Shining,

Sheila

FOR THE MOTHER FIGURE, MENTOR OR PARTNER IN YOUR LIFE

For the woman who's been your mirror—who's reflected your strengths back to you when you couldn't see them yourself—give her permission to rest.

• Beautiful, amber-scented Candle – Because she deserves moments of peace

• Deeply hydrating body cream – A small luxury that honors self-care

• Cozy Socks – Comfort for the woman who's always taking care of everyone else

• Gorgeous, hand-hewn mug – For mindful morning moments

• Toasty, flavorful tea – A ritual of calm

• The softest blanket – Warmth and relaxation, ready and waiting for when she finally sits down

• Disco pencil holder –  A little something to make your workspace a more fun

FOR THE YOUNG WOMEN WHO INSPIRE YOU

For the rising leaders in your life—the ones figuring out who they are and who they want to become—give them tools for the journey ahead.

• High tech headphones – For creating focus in a noisy world

• Emotional support water bottle – A reminder to take care of herself while she's taking on the world

• Moisturizing lip gloss – A pocket-size confidence boost

• Shearling boots – Because rootedness starts from the ground up

• Belt bag – Freedom to move through the world hands-free

• Compact mirror – Take a moment to see your beauty and brilliance—inside and out

FOR THE MEN IN YOUR LIFE

For the partner, friend, or colleague who shows up consistently. 

• Sophisticated scent – Something unique that honors who he is

• Leather wallet – Quality that lasts

• Smart watch – Support for his goals and wellbeing

• Excellent coffee – Fuel for meaningful mornings

• A plush robe – Comfort after long days

• Handsewn slippers – Because everyone deserves to come home to softness

Make a list of three people who've been mirrors for you this year—who've seen you clearly, called out your blind spots, or reflected your strengths when you needed it most. Then decide how you'll show them you see them too. It doesn't have to be elaborate or expensive. Sometimes the most powerful gift is simply saying: I see you. Thank you.

What’s next?

Whether you're giving them on their own or paired with something special, my hope is that The Mirror Effect will help someone in your life see themselves more clearly—and more kindly. And stay tuned for the audiobook, which is dropping soon. I can’t wait to share it with you. 

With deep gratitude,
Sheila

Have you seen my TEDx talk "Focus on the Mirror, Not the Glass Ceiling"? In it, I explore how finding the right mirrors—people who reflect our potential and validate our experiences—can transform our leadership journey. I'd be honored if you'd watch and share it with others who might benefit from this message.